Hubby upon hearing this for the first time, busted into a rambunctious laughter as he enjoyed the sound of my name on the lips of our little girl. At that point, he mentioned it sounded so adorable on her lips and from the laughter in his eyes, he seemed to have loved it. He didn't attempt to use his threatening voice to warn her to stop.
“Foya”. My little girl, barely a few hours later, crooned loudly a name similar to what was bestowed on her father at birth as she smiled innocently yet mischievously towards his direction.
Hubby almost had a heart attack as he hurriedly jumped up from the long sofa he was reclining. He turned and gave his look alike a threatening stare which worked. She never called the name again that day. I didn’t start laughing until Hubby began vituperating while still maintaining his shocked look towards his first seed.
“How dare you? Do you know who I am? Do you know my age? Omo yi o tie nii respect rara ahn ahn. A whole son of a King, the first of its lineage, the unsoiled, yada yada yada”. He went on and on and concluded it with a warning, “don’t ever call my name again. I am not your mate. Kids of today. Can you imagine! What nonsense! Tej, o ma gbo omo yii sha". All these while, his eyes remained on her smiling face, while he managed to look genuinely affronted. From the way she smiled that day, I was convinced our little girl knew very well what she did and had anticipated her father's reaction.
It was then I began to laugh. I’d write another day about the antics of men not being able to receive what they easily dish.
After starting off with her parents, my daughter proceeded to call everyone within the household by the name they were being addressed by her parents irrespective of age. Up until this morning, she calls me Teju and mixes mummy intermittently when she's chastised to do so. She, however, knows she must substitute "Teju" for "mummy" when asked to do so.
You see, despite her young age, she was able to figure out that she was the only one in the house who calls me mummy while Hubby, mum and mum-in-law calls me Teju. It doesn’t take calculus to deduce that she decided to follow the crowd. For her dad, she noticed that was what her mummy and grandma calls him and she decided to follow suit. She also applied these tactics to her nannies as she calls them exactly what we call them.
What’s the essence of this long nonsense?
1) In life, there are people who don't understand balance or that there are lines and some things shouldn't be crossed. They actually genuinely don't. For such people, you have to teach them exactly how they should deal with you and what they should do. For these people, it doesn't matter their age. They can dish out anything to you to test how far they could go. You see such in relationships where a man or woman coming out of a home where respect or love isn't key. When loving such persons, you have to teach them how to love you. You don't assume they know. They are coming from somewhere different and as such their orientation differs from yours. If you aren't ready to accept their method of loving (which is very okay), then teach them what to do.
2) Sometimes, we forget there are people we directly influence or who can form opinions and thoughts just by watching or listening to us. We also believe we can control how much people or situation can influence us. We convince ourselves and others that we can detach when we want to or that when that time comes, we can make amends or adjust. That's a joke of the century.
I remember when a certain she-male celeb started to trend. Hubby used to be very irritated. Now? He recently showed me a picture of the celeb and his words were “This person is looking so fine in this picture”. Barely 2 seconds later, he went “WTF did I just say?” Lmao!
3) No matter how thick, strong, or detached you may think you are, what you see, watch, hang out with or feed your soul constantly WILL influence you.
I remember when a certain she-male celeb started to trend. Hubby used to be very irritated. Now? He recently showed me a picture of the celeb and his words were “This person is looking so fine in this picture”. Barely 2 seconds later, he went “WTF did I just say?” Lmao!
3) No matter how thick, strong, or detached you may think you are, what you see, watch, hang out with or feed your soul constantly WILL influence you.
4) When/If you do not deal with a problem from the granular, it WILL grow. To eradicate a problem, you have got to be consistent and committed to solving it.
5) Choose your friends, lovers, listeners and media tactics wisely. Every person we meet or hang out with leaves a little part of themselves with us unconsciously.
5) Choose your friends, lovers, listeners and media tactics wisely. Every person we meet or hang out with leaves a little part of themselves with us unconsciously.
6) Be circumspect about all your footprints. You never know when it'd work for or against you. Everything you post on the internet cannot be recalled. They would forever serve as evidence.
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P:S- In another news, pleasssssssssssssssssse, avoid having kids like a staircase. Space them out biko. This is an advice o. It's for your own sanity and mental balance. You have probably seen a cute adorable couple holding their 3 years old child while carrying a 2 years old and you most likely commented "awwwww #family goals", abi? Or you went ahead and dropped it as a prayer point that your kids should come back to back like a hit song? Another topic for another day sha.
Thank you for reading. I hope to write more.
